I had such a great time talking to the beautiful women of the Diva Network about how to attract a successful Man. It was such a great time to set down with like minded women who wan the same thing I want. I gave them a few pointers that I think they really liked. Let me share them with you:
- Men are visuale
- Have great intellegent conversation
- Internet dating is great (just be VERY PICKY)
- Have a since of humor and be positive
- Support is very important.
- Get therapy to be healthy
Those all some of my suggestons I gave the women. Now stay turned for others.
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I wanted to add something to my blog that would further interest women. HOW TO ATTRACT A SUCCESSFUL MAN. I've dated FOR a minute (LOL) and yes I have been married several times. When people ask me how many times I have been married and I tell them three times they give me a look of "Umm". I reply back to that look by saying "I'm just so lovable". I really liked being married, but unfortunately I didn't pick the right ones (IT'S THAT ALWAYS THE ANSWER). There are always different reasons why relationships fell, but you have to get a relationship to understand why they fell. I just think I married for the wrong reasons.
In this new blog page I will be sharing relationship advice, why my relationships fell and how to attract a successful man and how to keep him. I've learned from my mistakes (Oh believe me it took a long time, but I have learned so much). I struggle to be different in my current relationship and every day is better than the last (pray for me).
The first thing I will share is:
Get some COUNSELING. We all have learned our relationships from our parents. Me unfortunately never really had my father in my life nor any other positive male role model growing up. Well you can image how I viewed relationships. CAN YOU SAY "DADDY ISSUE". I CAN. OK now lets get serious. My first memory of my father was when he would beat my mom. Her tears still tear my up inside. My second memory of a father was my step dad. Can you image growing up in an area in Northern VA that only had a few black people and having a white stepfather. CRAZY. Not only that, my mom loved to announce that fact that she only dated white men who were married. CRAZY. Now seeing a counselor was probably the best thing a pretty girl like me could have done. I've learned so much about why in the past I picked the wrong men. Attracting all the negative men was acceptable to me. I lived what I learned. Going to counseling broke that cycle. I know all the signs of my past and I stay away from them. When I see that guy how reminds me of my father, I RUN. When I see that guy that reminds me of the men my mother dated, I RUN. I run so hard and fast that I can't breath, but eventually I catch my breath. I feel that talking to someone who is educated in fixing problems was the best thing I have ever did (and I have three amazing sons). You have to understand that when you go to counseling, it helps you with being a better you.
Tips for finding the right counselor:
When I was looking for a counselor, I was married to my now husband who I am separated from. He put me through a lot and I needed to understand him. I searched for someone who fit his age, his race and who could let me know about a man my husbands age. It worked out so well.
Things to look for in a counselor:
Be comfortable with who ever you talk to. Let them know your religion. Ask them questions about there life and see if you guys can relate to each other. That's what I did and it changed my life.
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