How Dare I

“This is our big chance to see what people think of us. The real us. We have to show em there's nothing to be afraid of. If we don't get over our fears, they never will.” 
― Lisi Harrison, Monster High 

How Dare I put myself out here to my followers and present myself as a sexy 50 year old women.  Where do I get the nerve or as I would tell you the courage to tell you how to be like me, how to look like me and why to have confidence like a boss.  I will tell you why.  I didn't grow up with a positive influence or even a loving family.  I grew up to have my family and friends tell me that I was not good enough to be smart, strong, confident and gorgeous.  I was that girl that you looked at and said, she has it all, but I didn't.  I came upon all that I have by not believe the truth of all others (weather good or bad), but I believed in my truth.  My truth is that I am worthy of being strong, beautiful and confident. 

I believe in my  truth everyday, every hour and every minute of the day.  I once had a boyfriend tell me that I was not the most beautiful women in the world, I looked at him and said, "It felt great to say that didn't it".  His story was different then mine and I knew that.  I had that much confidence in myself to focus on the person he was and not believe his lie.  Later on he told me that it got a little much for his confidence to continue to hear my truth.  

I wanted to share this Truth blog post today to let people know that in the year 2015 50ShadesOfSexy will be posting the journey that bought me to who I am today and how you too can also take your story and make it positive and sexy.  Happy New Year my beautiful and Sexy friends.

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My first 50ShadesOfSexy post: (Are you ever too old to send a sexy selfie?)

We see them on Instagram, we see them on Facebook and we see them on tweeter.  Those sexy selfies that the young girls/women share for the world to see.  I like the fact that the younger generation loves their bodies and want to share them for the world, but sometimes it is a little too much.  Now as more mature women, we really do think about our kids and business associates and that maybe why we don’t share our great confidence with the world or are we a little too shy to share ourselves with the world?  Maybe it’s because we think that the world does not want to see us or is it that we get so intimidated by the young girls/women who have the amazing bodies.  

You don't have to go completley nude in sending a picture to your man.  

Well that does not go for your girl Kat.  Yes I said it.  I am not afraid to share the fact that I work hard to keep it together and my boyfriend loves to see it when he is out of town.  Let’s get to the story of how your girl came to share a few pictures with her boyfriend and not go too far.

A little black and white can be very sexy to him

 And the story goes like this:

One night I’m setting around working on ThriftyGurl Boutique after a hard day of working out all day.  I get a call from my boyfriend and he wants me to send him a picture of me in some sexy boots he purchased for me.  Well that night I was SO tired and I didn’t really want to get up out of my bed and get dressed to send a picture of myself to him (sounds familiar right?).  I thought about it for a while and my mind started to race.  What if he sees a girl/women at the hotel that is wearing those same exact boots (whore)?  What if one of his past girlfriends just wanted to reach out to him and send him something to remind him of what he had (and ladies it does happen)?  Or just what if he just missed me so much and loved me so much that the only person that would feel the void of what he is feeling was me?  Well ladies this is where we go wrong.  We think so damn much when we should just get our asses out of the bed and make our man happy before he finds someone at the bar that is more than willing to do it for us.  It’s not like he is asking us to build a house or have another baby at 50.  At that point I got my little butt up and put on those boots, slipped on a school girl mini, mini, mini skirt and put on that sexy bra and did my sexy thing.

Well ladies needless to say my man loved the pictures.  He was so happy that the last image that he say that night was a few pictures of me in something that he bought for me and I was confident to wear for him. 

So lesson #1 in this blog post is, don’t drop the ball when it comes to satisfying your man’s needs when he is out of town.  A man gets lonely and misses his family and his women so PLEASE women, what is so wrong about being that girlfriend you were when he first met you.

Keep it simple 

I Love Wearing A Bikini At 50 - How About You?

So I just turned 50 years old in June of this year and it seems that I have done some major traveling to the tropics.  I've noticed something that made me ask the questions, How old is to old to wear a two piece bathing suit?  Well the answer I gave myself was this.  You are never to old to wear a two piece bathing suit.  I have noticed a trend since I have been traveling.  Women who are young and old even women who are not in the best shape haven been sporting two piece bathing suits.  Now, sometimes you will see a women who has absolutely no room to wear a bikini, but I have to tell you, I think a women who is that bold to wear a bikini and not be in the best of shape gets my vote on confidence.  I've spoken to a few women of my age and they told me that wearing a bikini is a lot more comfortable that a one piece.  I have to agree.  A bikini does give more comfort that a one piece.  It is also so damn sexy.

I have on this very sexy Victoria Secret pink bikini that really shapes the body.  It firms the chest and brings in the stomach.  

Here I thought I would wear the Stars and Strips bikini.  As you can see, the bottoms of both suits are tied on each side.  I think it gave me more room to show off my hips and curves. I think being over 35 can give you a lot of room to experiment with different looks.  You can still be sexy with the right swim suit.

Here I'm wearing a a strapless red bikini top with a plum color bottom.  The top is padded for more support and again the bottom ties at each side.  Really makes for a sexy look on me.  My body shape is athletic so I can get away with wearing either strapless or halter.  Ladies don't be afraid to experiment with your suits.  Happy summer.

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How To Stay Sexy at any Age.

"Beauty is how you feel inside and it reflects in your eyes.  It is not something physical." -Sophia Loren

In 20 days I will be turning 50 years old.  I have shared so much fashion on my blog, but now I am ready to share more with you.  I want to share all the knowledge I have as a women that will be turning 50 years old.  People are always shocked when they meet me or when they see my pictures and I have no big secret on how I stay youthful.  I am a regular women just like everyone else.  I do take care of myself but I take better care of myself now that I am turning 50.  In post to come, I will share all my secrets with you about how to stay young, energetic, chic, fabulous, healthy, successful and wise.  I'll even give you dating tips and tell you how to get the man of your dreams.  Stay tuned to how life can be better as you get older.

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Can Women Over 35 Still Wear Shorts?

Can women over 30 years old wear shorts?  Well, I'm just going to share my opinion on this topic.  One of my first memories of my mother is when I noticed that she would wear short shorts with high heels.  Now I know it was in the 60's and 70' and to be honest even the 80's, but I would always think to myself, isn't she uncomfortable wearing those heels.  I do think that I probably focused on the shorts but didn't really understand what exactly I was noticing since she was a mother figure.  I personally love the fact 50 is the new 30 and that now older women as myself can pull off the shorts with the heel situation.  Fashion has gotten so creative that if you do keep yourself looking youthful, you can get away with the whole shorts and heels fashion.  As long as you keep it classy, does anyone really care?

As you can see in my pictures, I really have kept it classy.  I think that this is a good length for my age and the shoes don't really overpower the shorts.  I paired the shorts with a Max Mara top I purchased at a thrift store for around $10.00.

I also wanted to put a few accessories like this great bracelet watch I purchased at a thrifty store for $6.00.  It is silver with a double wrap chain.  As you can see I also put a simple swarovski crystal black and white ring on.  Enjoy

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Fashion at the Lake

 Oh it's March and the weather here in Virginia goes from cold to hot to hot to cold and so on.  One day we get 9 inches of snow and the next day might be in the 60's.  Well this was a good day to take advantage of the nice 60 degree weather. 

 I visited the lake and thought that I would pull out a top that I don't really wear very often.  This black top was purchased at a great boutique in Maryland National Harbor a few years ago.  It was rather pricing, but it is a piece is not dated.

I don't usually wear big chunky jewelry, but today I wanted to experiment with this great chunky necklace I bought from a thrift store for around $2.99.  You have seen my jeans a few times.  They to were purchased at a thrift store for around $7.99 with 25% off.  My heels are Jessica Simpson's.  They are a five inche heel that were a steal at Lord & Taylor.  

And what do we have here?  A MCM authentic purse I purchased at www.shopgoodwill.com for $150.00.  I had to get up at the crack of dawn in order to get it for that price.  The handbag usually runs for $1,500.00.   I really love this look.  Sun, fun and style.  That is a touch of elegance.

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Make Sequins Your Everyday Choice

Day time and sequins.  How do can we pull it off you ask?  Well here we go.  People usually fear wearing sequins in the day time and none holidays, but I say sequins can really bring out the diva in you everyday.  This blue DNKY sequins top is proof of that ans it is so chic with these distressed jeans and simple pair of shoes.  Pairing this top with jeans doesn't make you look like you are overdoing it.  I just see it as a glorified t-shirt.  I could actually put a great sweater of blazer over it, but I just couldn't do this top a disservice by hiding it.  So don't be afraid to brighten up your day with this great staple SEQUIN.

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The Benefits Of Wearing a Vintage Wedding Gown

Here comes the bride all dressed in white.  Well what about if you have been married a few times and your waited for Mr. Right in your late 40's?  What to wear?  What to wear?  Traditionally older brides have a tendency to wear a skirt or pantsuit, but things have changes so much.  Look at those beautiful housewives of what ever state is on at the moment.  They are wearing gowns that are young and sexy, but there are so many other brides, young and old, that are wearing the traditional vintage attire.  Take this vintage gown that still has that sexy and flirty look to it.  All the detail that surrounds the arms and the neck.  I really love the way it photographs and that is tre' important.  This is an amazing vintage gown that can be wore by the young and mature alike.  Sure you might say, Kat you don't really look you age, so you can carry it.  Come on people, this is vintage.  It's made to fit and flatter any women.  The waste is flared out and the top is covered very well.  Not only is vintage tailored well but the one of a kind look in amazing.  This gown was made in the 1960's and is still timeless.  It can even be redesigned and still keep that vintage style in tacked.  

There are many advantages in purchasing  a vintage wedding gown is that you can save so much money.  Vintage gowns usually less expensive than a modern gown.  You can also search thrift stores and antique stores to find some great gowns.  Another advantage in wearing a vintage wedding gown, is they are one of a kind.  This dress is like no other.  The lace is positioned so perfectly.  The materials are so soft and elegant.  It is in perfect condition.  Enjoy

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I Don't Like To Eat Them, But They Make Those Puffy Eyes Look Amazing

 I love the fact that when people find out that I will be 50 years old this June, they can't believe it.  It makes my day when my children get a little uncomfortable when a man looks at their mama, because that's what we live for right?  Just kidding kids.  I do have a lot of secrets I would like to share with you but this one is sooooo amazing.  When I turned 49 I looked in the mirror and said "I still have it", but as the days when by I noticed that I had dark circle under my eyes.  Oh no I said.  Not me.  I thought I would look 30 forever.  I had some serious dark circles under my eyes with a hint of puffy eyes.  I was determined to get those puffy dark circles from under my eyes.  I didn't like the fact that I look so tired and worn out.  My spirit was still so young and I wanted to look that way.  I tried everything.  I tried under eye creams and youth lotions.  Some of them were good, but not for the eyes.  I googled all kinds of things that might help.  I finally decided that maybe I would get surgery one day.  Than I decided to try a natural remedy that has been out there for years.  Cucumbers.  Yes that old cucumber trick.  Cucumbers have a cooling remedy that I heard about, but I also read on the Internet that they didn't work, but I wanted to try them anyway, but to much disappointment they didn't work.  I decided that maybe if I would freeze them it might work a little better and Pow, they came through for me.  I have a great routine that I do every morning and the most important part are my frozen cucumbers.  They have made my eyes look so amazing.  My dark circle have disappeared and my eyes are not puffy.  As you can see from the picture above, my eyes look energized and fresh.  

Here is the recipe for my eye beauty routine:

• Slice cucumbers in a shape that fits your eyes.  Cut circles first and than cut in halves.
• Put cucumbers in freezer overnight
• Put your regular cleaner on your face, but don't wash cleanser off
• Put frozen cucumbers under each eye for about 3 minutes while cleanser is still on
• After taking cucumbers off your under eyes will be red from the cold
• Wash face with lukewarm water to get reed of redness under the eyes
• Use a good under eye cream and put a little bit of the cucumber juice under the eyes like a toner.

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